|Posted on August 20, 2016 at 11:30 PM||comments (4)|
MidLife is about Personal Growth and becoming the person one was meant to be. Some of the changes that occur can, at first, seem quite frightening. To lose one's identity seems like a tragedy, until you realize it is just part of the process towards, a new, improved, mature individual.
PHASE ONE - In the 1st phase, which Life Transition Researcher...Read Full Post »
|Posted on October 5, 2015 at 12:05 AM||comments (0)|
In a Partnership its easy to lose focus on the relationship over time. One person will come home from work and greet their partner in a more or less, routine way, that has become a negative repeating pattern of INATTENTION.
"Hi Honey, how was your day/" While this might be caring when the relationship is new, after hearing this 365 days X many years of marriage, what does it...Read Full Post »
|Posted on March 24, 2015 at 1:15 PM|
When a happily married woman comes into my office with complaints of increased sexual fantasies, or possibly even an affair with a man or a woman who is not her partner, how do I conceptualize her issues? How do I help this woman?
I am relieved that as a Licensed Marriage Family Therapist, in the state of California, my job is not to direct her actions or pass judgment. I am here to help her clarify her issues, present her with information, and assist her in developing i...Read Full Post »
|Posted on February 18, 2015 at 9:50 AM||comments (0)|
"So many times Couples will say the most awful things about their partner.
Once they learn about projections, if they are open to it, the dynamic shifts from blame their partner - to insight about themselves". Dr. Kerns
|Posted on February 16, 2015 at 11:10 PM|
The Betrayal is real. What does this mean? The past years events take on new meaning, causing the cheated on partner to feel disoriented. Redefining past memories is exhausting. The betrayed partner’s life was not what they believed it to be. What does this mean for the partnership? How can Couples Counseling with Dr. Marie Kerns in Irvine help?
My first concern is supporting the betrayed partner, and you may wonder how I do that? I make it very clear that past percep...Read Full Post »